Overcoming Objections to Care - Senior Alert Medical

Overcoming Objections to Care

by Charlie Kimball · 0 comments

Envision being in this situation: your elderly loved one appoints you as their trusted guardian but doesn’t trust the decisions that you’re making on their behalf.  They’re constantly second-guessing you and making sure that their displeasure is recognized and mentioned at every turn.

There are millions of adult children who are in this situation with their parents, grandparents, and loved ones. It goes beyond learning how to take over your loved one’s finances; that resistance can permeate through the overall relationship that you have with them.

There are many emotions associated with getting older. There are a lot of fears, and with those fears come a lot of intense reactions – defense mechanisms that you might not have dealt with in the past (because you weren’t constantly in their lives in the past). Yet they may be losing the capacity to make good decisions. Many elderly people need a housekeeper or caretaker, but when they refuse, what do you do?

Sell it as Making Life Easier

Just when you convinced them to use their senior alert medical systems, you may find that they don’t have the ability to take care of their homes or themselves anymore. Try by phrasing the need for a housekeeper into more for a way to save time and taking something off of their plate.

Ask Them What’s Bothering Them

This happens all the time: there’s a fight or a disagreement but the subject of the disagreement had nothing to do with the real reasons for the fight.  Delve deeply and ask your loved one what’s bothering them so you can get to the heart of the matter. Find out what their pet peeves are.  Be as benign as possible, as you want to avoid triggering those mental defense systems (which are much like senior alert medical systems, but not as reliable or useful).

Explain Your Shortcomings

If your elderly loved one is refusing to have someone else in their home, it’s time to explain the fact that you’ve got your own shortcomings and that you need help. You might gain ground, just as if with the senior alert medical systems, by removing the focus on them and placing it on yourself.

Begin Early

Nobody likes change.  Your loved ones don’t like change, though they are changing.  Introduce the ideas that you’re having about their care early in the process so that they know that it’s coming.  What this does is lessen any mental blows that your loved one feels like they are receiving.  It will also give them time to process what’s going on with their personal condition.

Start Small

Your loved one might need to have full round-the-clock care, or is at least heading that way within the next year or so.  You might be able to see the writing on the wall, but your loved one doesn’t want to take the jump with you.  Start with something small, like getting senior alert medical systems, to get something in place.

When your loved one is recalcitrant about the care that they’re receiving, take a few moments to put yourself in their shoes.  Remember that the effectiveness of your decisions will be made in the approach that you take, and that taking things slowly is often the best decision.

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